plural noun: expectations
a strong belief that something will happen or be the case.
Having healthy expectations is so important when going through a journey like this. You need to realise that nobody can read your mind and those around you want to be there for you, but you need to ask for the help and create an expectation for the support to be there.
I have given myself an uncomfortable (but necessary) task to let my loved ones know what I need through my surgery and recovery.
I have put it out there that I need my friends and family to visit me and show their support.
If you do not ask, you will not receive.
I’m not saying ask your loved ones to buy you jewellery and spend every waking moment of everyday with you at the hospital. I’m saying ask them to be there for you and not make the visit all about themselves and ask them flat out to show you the support that you require to make you happy and healthy and feel supported and loved.
Expectations are very important to have but there is a fine line between demanding something and hoping and asking for it.
I personally have asked my friends and family to support me and told certain people that I want them to be there for me but not to smother me and asked others to smother me more than ever before.
You need to decide who you need through this journey and ask them for what you need from them in a nice healthy way.
I have been seeing a psychologist to make sure I am in the right state of mind going into this surgery. I am not ashamed to say to say that I asked for help when I knew I needed it.
Pride is the root of all evil in the world and if you are able to say you need help, you will be so much happier in life!
I always say: “You can’t pour from an empty cup”
Remember that YOU need to be the reason why your cup if full and sometimes that means asking for others to help you fill it. 😊
Chat soon xxx